Why “Gems”?
What comes to mind when you think of a gem? Rubies, sapphires, diamonds, and emeralds are beautiful, precious, and rare. They come in many different hues, but all sparkle in their own way. Sometimes their inner beauty is hidden within, but it is there all the time, waiting to be discovered. Gems have many facets, with each facet contributing to the whole. We believe that nurturing and developing the feminine facet of our personalities enhances every aspect of our lives.

Is this the right group for me?
Anyone who supports our goals is welcome to join us. We have members who identify as CD, TG, and TS, as well as spouses, partners, family members, friends, and allies. To help you decide whether the Gems are a good fit for you, why not join our Yahoo group? You can ask questions, talk with other members, and get to know us before attending your first event. To join the Yahoo group, click here»

I am a female-to-male (FTM) trans person. Does your group offer any FTM support?
We do not offer programs or services specifically oriented towards trans men. However, FTMs are always welcome to attend our social events. If you are looking for FTM resources in the Sacramento area, we will be happy to give you a referral.

Do I have to become a member to attend your events?
Membership is not required in order to participate in our activities. However, we do encourage attendees to become paid members as it is membership dues that funds or offsets the expenses of events and any organization infrastructure fees. No board member or volunteer is paid anything. Also, as a paid member you will not only be supporting and giving back to the group, but you'll receive a $5 discount on the door fee for all Gems events. Members also enjoy other benefits such as a membership card, library privileges, and even a special card and gourmet cupcake in the month of their birthday!  You can join in person at any Gems event, or you can complete the membership process online or by mail. To learn how, click here»

I have never left the house dressed en femme before. Can you help me?
Yes we can! Assisting those who are "in the closet" is an important part of what we do. Here you will find a group of caring sisters who will hold your hand and help you get out the door. Our socials are a safe and welcoming place for first-timers, and we are available to give you all the advice and encouragement you need to take that first step. If you and/or your partner aren't ready to attend a dressed event in public, then you might prefer to come to one of  our private events, such as a party or game night held at a member's home. You are also welcome to attend any of our events in male mode if that is more comfortable for you. We have lots of options and resources to offer you, and we are always here to help.

Exactly where do you meet? The website doesn't say.
For security reasons, we do not usually publicize the location of our events on the website. Complete details will be provided when you RSVP using the links on our events page»

I am an "admirer" looking to meet and date transgender people. Am I welcome to join you?
We are not a dating service, and strive to maintain a family-friendly environment at our socials and events. If you are interested in a relationship with a transgender person, try the local nightclub scene or the personal ads. Read our code of conduct»

I am under 18. Can I join?
You must be over 18 to participate in River City Gems activities, unless we have written permission from your parent or guardian. If you are a teen, we can direct you to a local transgender youth group or other appropriate resources.

Are you a chapter of Tri-Ess (Society for the Second Self)?
No. We are not affiliated with, and have no connections to, Tri-Ess International, Inc.